By Angela Skeete Davis
Think Moderation!
We should try not to overindulge with food and/or alcohol. Remember, eating and drinking may feel like it adds to the joy of the holidays or “eases the pain” of the holiday blues, but it is only temporary and can also lead to feelings of guilt.
Set Aside "YOU" time!
Give yourself a bit of you time in the morning and throughout your day. You can practice mindfulness no matter where you are, so find a space where you can be alone. Set a timer (start with one minute, then slowly increase the amount of time to as much as you desire) and practice grounding yourself in your breath, observing how your body feels, how you feel, and focusing on being in the present.
Learn to Let Go (especially of guilt)!
Holding on to memories, painful feelings, and thoughts can be exhausting and a waste of energy. You may experience an increase in energy and happiness as you learn to let things go.
Try not to put unreasonable pressure on yourself during the holidays. Likewise, try not to over-analyze your interactions. Let go of the guilt and give yourself a break this holiday season.
Stay Connected!
Make sure to leave time to spend with friends and/or family who value you. And if they don’t live close by, call them for a "reality check", some grounding, or just some love. Remember to ask for support if you need it.
Say NO/Ask For Help!
It’s OK to say NO when you’re asked to do more than you can. It’s fine to say no to some invitations and to those asking for favors. Holidays are a time people attempt to take on too much and/or do too much on their own. Not only is it OK to say NO, but it's also OK to ask for help from family and/or friends. Whether for decorating, shopping, cooking, or a shoulder to lean on, ask. This is your holiday, too!
Get a good night's sleep! Hug someone! Eat Healthy! Dance! Laugh! Breathe!